- David (Kiefer Sutherland) in The Lost Boys
A letter to my younger self aged 13.
Right now, you think yourself as pretty confident; pretty sure of who you are and where you’re headed. The reason I’ve chosen this quote is that perfectly matches your care-free, 4 times suspended, rule-disregarding attitude that you and your best friends have at boarding school. As much as you might complain, you’ve had the most fun and this feeling of invincibility that you guys have when you’re together is the very thing I’m here to remind you of.
Truth is, nothing can prepare you for the shock that is about to come when you are thrown amongst a group of girls who gain their confidence by criticizing and competing with girls just like you. Having spent every day with your friends these last six years, you have an incomparable appreciation for friendship, sisterhood and the courage that your friends have given you. You are going to struggle to relate to these new girls; their vanity, materialistic obsessions and their intimidation of anyone who is self-assured and happy in themselves.
The fact is, every girl reaches a point where she has to decide – are you for girls, or against them? Until now, girls have been your family, and every success or failure you’ve experienced you’ve done so with them right behind you. You can’t understand this now, but those friendships will never change, it’s the most constant thing you’ll experience over the next few years and probably for life.
So here it is, the survival guide to girlhood in your teens: Don’t be afraid of the mean girls. Nothing is more intimidating right now to them than your self-confidence. You will all go in different directions, and all suffer the scrutiny of other girls but just hold on to the memory of when there was no competition or jealousy but instead, encouragement and support.
Cherish other girls, and you’ll always be a great one!